When You Want Something

“For what it’s worth… it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you’ve never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”


These words by F. Scott Fitzgerald only resonated with me the last couple of years. You know, sometimes you read or hear something and it doesn’t stick until you’re ready to really absorb the message.


I wouldn’t say that I wasn’t proud of the life I was living. I was proud of my network of supportive friends and mentors around me. I was proud of my career. I had worked my butt off to achieve top recognition, and I had earned the respect of my colleagues and senior leadership and, most importantly, my customers.


But, somehow it struck me- there truly aren’t any rules to this thing called life. I didn’t have to just keep doing what I was doing because it felt comfortable. This isn’t some kind of practice for the real game. This is the only life I have, and I don’t even know how long I have here to live it. What I decided is that I wanted to make the best of it. I realized meaningful growth doesn’t come from inside my comfort zone. Armed with these newfound discoveries, I left my life behind and started over.


A little note about moving away- By far the best thing is the people you meet and the perspectives you gain. It’s a priceless gift that life rewards you for taking a big risk. I did feel things I’d never felt before. I was startled. It was magical and moving, and it was hard as hell. I was forever changed.


Recently I’ve started all over again. This time, thankfully, the new beginning has been a joy. It was a choice this time, and I feel grateful each and every day I wake up to this life I am so blessed to live.


I am excited to share a little about the next chapter in the book I’m writing that has unexpected twists and turns and crazy highs and lows, this life that I’ve had the courage to cultivate…
Edit to this post months later: In the original post, I shared that I was starting a new career in yachts sales. I did, and I gave it a try for a solid three months. Some may say that isn’t long enough to give something a change. But I new it wasn’t my calling. Something about starting your own business (and, in my case, starting one that resonated so deeply in my soul) makes it somehow harder to do something that you know isn’t the right fit.
I’ll share more in depth about my current role in another post. I’ll also share about a book I’m reading, The Alchemist. I am constantly seeing evidence that “when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” This belief- this discovery- may be one of the most beautiful epiphanies one will ever  have.


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1 Comment
  • Barrett Canfield
    March 28, 2019

    Ashley, We are so excited to have you aboard at South Coast Yachts! Your attitude, drive, and spirit will bring you great accomplishment anywhere, but we are happy that you chose this path with all of us st SCY.

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